Personality

The woman I marry will be seeking a best friend and partner in life.   She will be very genuine with her feelings and will most likely be known as a pillar of strength.  What she wants in life will be very clear to her.  She will be a good communicator and preferably won't already have children.   There will be an air of confidence about her.   Her vision of what she wants from life is very clear and she will make it happen.  She will be confident enough to openly say how she feels, even if she is feeling vulnerable.   She is often a dreamer and then shocks everyone by making it a reality.   Her understanding of others and her compassion will be commendable.   She should be able see her lover get goofy, laugh at him and be attracted to it (yeah that 's me).  She will laugh openly at herself and others and realize that this is one of the most important medicines in life.   Having  a comfortable lifestyle will be important to her but she'll know it can't bring her happiness. 

I want to have several children 3-5 years from now and plan to be working less than a 40 hour week.  Hopefully that will be something that she eventually wants within the next 3-7 years.   I also want to do some humanitarian ventures and she should or even want to participate.   These will most likely be in the holistic medical field.  She should enjoy and really want to help others as a part of her life.  She should be secure, truly confident about who she is no matter what others may think, non judgmental, very affectionate, very down to earth, love nature and animals and she should consider herself an open book.  Healthy eating should be something she has made part of her life.    She should also have a good imagination and believe anything is possible if she wants it bad enough.  

If she wants to pursue a career I am all for that.  She should believe that if we can afford for her not to work, then daycare is out of the question for our children.  Dishonesty is a major pet peeve of mine.  If you tell lies, you're wasting your time here.  Obviously she should like most of  the things I like because we would be doing them together for the next sixty years. 

Physical Appearance: UPDATED 1/04

This is the hardest part about my whole experience. What I am about to say is the result of meeting many people. IT IS NOT me just sitting back and writing out some specifications of an ideal woman. I believe that attraction is something my maker has instilled in and not some conscience choice I am making. So with that in mind, here are the types of woman I have learned I’m attracted to. I'm usually more physically attracted to dark haired woman, NON SMOKERs, in good shape, 24-35, 5'4" or taller. Please respect the fact that I know what I'm attracted to and wish it was not so restricted. As a result of what I have learned, I am not out there dating, wasting people’s time and toying with their emotions. I know what I want. During this process I have found people that I’m more compatible with than I had ever dreamed possible. There was only one problem…. I had no physical attraction to them. I’ve done a good job of communicating my intellectual needs. Now, I have to find a physical attraction also.

I put pictures up here before and I got a lot of heat for it so I took them down.  If someone is secure with themselves they have to know that there is always going to be a more attractive woman out there.   I know I'm not the best looking guy in the world... Here is my outlook on this.   I believe when I marry my wife she won't be the most compatible person with me, nor will she be the most attractive person I have ever met.   She will however be the best blend of the two!   It's time to say "I do" when the combination of friendship, companionship and physical attraction are balanced.  That person will be "the one"...   How many men have you dated that you can say REALLY have dated, explored their real needs and KNOW what they actually need and want?   Yes doing this has it's intimidating drawbacks, but I have no regrets!   You know what they say about if you love someone set it free?  Well, I have all ready flown from my cage and seen what the world has to offer.   I know what I have to offer and what my redeeming values are in a relationship.   I believe this to be a truly great benefit to offer my spouse.   You know I hire a lot of people and ultimately this is no different than embarking into a relationship with an employer in many respects.    The first thing I want to know when interviewing someone in my profession is why do they want to be "_ _ _ _ _ " (job title).    Just like hiring someone, it's as much YOUR problem being in a relationship with them if they don't know what THEY want as if you didn't want them...